Goals, Desire, and Willing to Receive

Keeping Resolutions

We are twenty-four days into 2019. I, personally, have a good feeling about this year. Some people poo poo the concept of New Year’s resolutions. It is probably because the notion of waiting for a beginning to get started; such as a new year, or a Monday, or a season, etc. can be a way of procrastinating.  Why wait until tomorrow? When you have today or even now.  But there is something about a fresh start that comes with a new year. So, what goals have you planned for this year? Are they money related, health related, relationship related, or creatively related?

Not everyone has a clear vision of what they really want in life. Or if they are even worthy of receiving their true desires. They go on as humans doing instead of humans being. We’ve all heard that saying before, but does it resonate with you? It may not at this moment, but I’m sure you’ve felt this way at sometime in your life.  Now that I have your attention, let’s find a way to make your life happen the way you want it. Are you ready to receive?

7  Steps To Get You Closer To Your Desires

Step One:  Write down the things that make you the happiest. It literally should bring a smile to your face while making this list.

Step Two:  Write down everything you are good at; or what people tell you, what you are good at.  Don’t worry if you think you don’t have a special skill set. Write down what come quickly to you mind.

Step Three:  Combine step 1 and step 2

Step Four:  Think outside of the box.  Not everything has to be seen first for it to become reality later.  Science is always catching up to the mystics. Many say, myself included, believing is seeing, not the other way around. Seeing is only part of experiencing life. We have many other senses.

If you are opened up for receiving, you will will receive. What does that exactly mean?  Everything starts with a thought first. Can you see a thought?  Think of your dream house. Does it exist yet? Or did you have to think of what you considered your dream house to be?  It starts with an idea, then a plan, then depending on how determined you are to have this house, you can end up with your dream house. That’s how developers do it.

Step Five:  Put this list somewhere that is visible every morning and evening. Really focusing on this list before bed. This step is important.  Your dreams will give you insight on how to further your dreams. Pay attention to words, numbers,  and symbols. They have messages in them that your subconscious mind wants you to listen to. You just might come up with the money making idea.

Step Six:  Be mindful what you are feeding your brain.  Listening to the news will put you in fear and away from your goals, assuming your goals are positive.  We watch what we put into our bodies. And yet, not what we allow in our brain.

Everything is energy when you take things down to the cellular level, the micro world.  We all tend to forget about that one and focus on the macro world.  You want to have your energy matching the things you desire; hence, read, explore, etc. everything that gets you excited and towards your goals. You will be surprised how this strategy work.

Step 7:  When an idea or inspiration pops up in your mind, find a way to act on it.  I’ve heard many say, “Just because you visualize your garden weed free, doesn’t mean they will go away on their own.  You must go out and tend to your garden and pull the weeds.” Action is key into making your visualization come to life.

All of these things working together will seem like magic at times.  Somethings will come easier and faster than others.   This can all seem very woo woo or unreal, but strange and unexplainable things do happen in life. Especially when your beliefs aren’t limited.

Ask And You Shall Receive

I have a little extraordinary, but true story to tell.  I was walking my dog on my usual trail in Castro Valley, California. It was a Friday afternoon around 2:00 P.M. I must explain that I am not just an author, but an angel card reader. Radleigh Valentine, one of my mentors, posts cards of the day on Facebook, much like a daily horoscope. For a week solid, the messages were about how angels, or loved ones that have passed, guides, etc. want us to ask for help. They are willing to help, but only when asked. Freewill will not allow them to give unsolicited advice.

As I was on this particular trail, I thought about Radleigh’s message and decided to try it out.  I asked very specifically and directly that if their messages were true about asking for help, then I wanted to see a bobcat that day as a validation.  I had a moment where I thought to myself, I had better ask for a bobcat and not a mountain lion, just in case they decided to answer.

As I walked I heard a voice, which sounded like my own voice say, You’ll see one, if you look hard enough. It was a rather snarky self-talk, I thought. My dog, Lucy, and I finished our hike and no bobcat sighting. I was not surprised, being I had never seen a bobcat in the almost fifty years of being in the area.  As I put Lucy in the car and headed out of the ranger station parking lot, I looked to the right into an open field, and I just about emptied my colon.

Mind Blowing

Is that a mountain lion? I thought to myself followed up instantly with another thought, I did ask for a bobcat. I figured since the voice was snarky with me earlier, I could reciprocate.  I pulled the car over to get a better look.

The animal was chilling in the sun. It was tan and very muscular. The ears seemed more rounded than a bobcat and did not have spots. I whistled loudly, like you would at a rock concert, to get it to move. I knew I could determine what it was by its tail. It looked over at me, then stood up, but not where I could see the tail.   I continued whistling so loudly that a ranger came out to see what this crazy lady was doing with the wildlife.

I knew what this must’ve looked like, so I said, “I can’t tell if this is a mountain lion or a bobcat.” He immediately informs me that it’s a bobcat. I just about died. He continued to explain it was not good to see one so close to humans.  I asked him had he ever seen one in this area. He said he had not. I thought, hum.  I didn’t have the heart or bravery to tell him, I brought it in.

We chatted a bit about the animal; how it was a young one, and how we all need to learn to coexist with each other the more we encroached in their territory. And on a completely different note, I informed him of a downed tree and broken pasture gate on one of the trails far out in the hills.  As he was pulling up a map so I could show him where I was talking about, he looks up with big eyes and said, “Now this is like National Geographic.”  I immediately looked to see what he was referring to.

I thought to myself, I thought we were looking at a bobcat, but that’s a coyote.  Well, there was a coyote going up to the bobcat. I thought now the angels are just showing off.  I asked the ranger, “So, how often does this happen?”

The picture isn’t very clear, but the coyote is heading toward the bobcat in this photo. I wish I had a telephoto lens on my phone camera.

“Like never!” He answered. I chuckled to myself. I couldn’t believe this was happening.

I am glad that I didn’t ask for a mountain lion. But the bobcat was a pretty good size. I think it weighed more than the coyote. I have always believed in the power of prayer, visualization, and meditation.  I believe we co-create our lives with our energy and attitude.  I have had many things come to fruition that have been on my vision board.

Not Everything Can Be Explained

When I have told naysayers of this incident, they had no words, except for wow. That’s weird, but pretty cool.  No one can explain this. Was it a coincidence? I don’t know, it was a pretty specific request.

We all have this capability, but for some reason we don’t use it. I challenge you to give the steps a try.  Start out small or big, and go for the life you want. What could be the worse thing to happen? Or better yet, what could be the best thing to happen?  Maybe 2019 is your year, too.

“If you are not willing to risk the unusual, you will have to settle for the ordinary.” ~ Jim Rohn

Opportunity and Perception

Things Don’t Always Go As Planned

What happens when something you hoped for doesn’t quite go the way you’d thought it would? Do you get massively disappointed? Do you quit? Or are you able to find opportunity in disappointment?

As a new author, many people have big plans to help you. Everyone is going to get your book. All of your friends will buy it.  You’ll get invited to speak at everyone’s book club.  People will be interested in articles you have written and hope to find a spot for them in online magazines. And so forth.

Well, these are the promises one hears up to publication date and a bit after.  Then the excuses come.  We haven’t heard back about the placement of your article from so and so. Or you, actually, do speak at some book clubs, but not nearly as many as you hoped. The best one yet, is when people say they are not going to buy your book, but rather get it from a friend after that friend has read it. Anyone who has published a book, knows how expensive and how much work goes into it. I personally will always pay for someone’s work of art.

Don’t be discouraged.  This is all part of being in the writing business. In fact, it is pretty much any business. Your friends and acquaintances are almost always going to be excited for you and your book. They usually are following the energy of author. I have to say it’s hard to keep the momentum going for long periods of time.

Sometimes There’s An Opportunity Better Than The Original Plan

I recently had some news about a person ordering a set of books for her class, but ended up not being able to get them at this time, due to a drastic budget cut.  I was bummed sort of, but something told me not to worry. Because something very interesting took place.

My friend works at the particular store where the order was placed, then put on hold. I contacted her to see if this teacher had indeed purchased the books.  I felt in my gut that the order might not have gone through.  Funny how things work out. She gave me the news, but followed up with; there’s a field trip with this particular class to visit the bookstore and would I like to be a guest author? And by the way, Guy Johnson, Maya Angelou’s son, would be there.

I have been on cloud nine since this news.  Trust your gut. And follow up with people. I was a little nervous asking if the order had been placed, in fear of the answer. Had I not asked my friend, I might’ve missed an amazing opportunity. It would’ve been nice to sell thirty books to a class, but I know I could sell thirty books at some point on my own.

Overnight Success Is Extremely Rare

Opportunity is all around.  You might have to look hard for it, but it is there. Remember there is no such thing as overnight success. There are stories in which it sounds like overnight success. It’s rare. Ask any famous or successful person.  I heard Amy Schumer in an interview with Oprah and how she was described as overnight success. And her reply to that was something like, “Overnight? Yeah, like after ten years of hard work.” Must’ve been one really long night.

We only hear the quick version of success stories. Because if we heard what really took place, it might seem boring or too hard.  Take a stake out for example.  The real ones almost never amount to anything.  But watch a movie and things are happening left and right.  Folks, it’s television.  People want to be entertained and wowed, and do not have much patience for boring.  Let’s face it, everyone loves one-day or two-day shipping.

Do Not Dismiss The Power Of Positive Thinking

You’re probably thinking I’m writing this because, I’m not making it right this second.  The truth is, I am in the process of making it. Although, I have no idea what to expect. Therefor, I don’t have any expectations.  That maybe a better attitude to have.

Again, I bring up the power of positive thinking. It goes without saying how I feel about the Law of Attraction. It works.  Keeping yourself in a positive and happy space, tells the Universe, Divine, God, etc., (whatever you choose to call it) to give you more of what matches that energy.  I’ve mentioned before in other blogs, the Universe is working for you, even when it feels like everything is against you. Your thoughts and energy are part of the success process. The physical is the only the macro part of life and the thinking is the micro part of life.  Everything starts with a thought or idea.

What I can say and know for sure, is my attitude has everything to do with my success and what types of opportunities and people I attract into my life. I have an unusually sharp memory and can see my own patterns. If you really were honest with yourself, you’d see the patterns in your own life that was created with your energy. Knowing this valuable information automatically gives you power.    Your energy is a valuable resource and it’s free.

Does It Matter How You See The Glass?

Seeing the glass half full is always a better outlook, than half empty. But realize if the glass is empty, you can always refill it.  Writing is my new passion, and I will keep on, keeping on.  It’s fascinating how this journey is unfolding.  Remember, It’s the journey, not the destination.

When there is an occurrence that is perceived as less than desirable, don’t be too upset. Go with the flow. There’s usually a reason when something doesn’t work out. It usually means there’s a better way or an opportunity coming.  I could’ve sulked about the teacher not getting my books, but now I have speaking event. I could get upset by people telling me they aren’t going to pay for my book.  But people are reading my book, anyway they can. The interested parties not committing to running my article, never said no. Which means, maybe they haven’t ran the article, yet. Patience is a virtue.

Something better could be lurking around the corner.   Nothing is a failure, until you deem it so. Manifesting Me shows how the law of attraction works, when it was on purpose and when it was not. You can’t control everything that happens to you, but you can control your thought process around it. It’s all perception.  Never give up. You never know what opportunities will show up.

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” ~ Lao Tzu



It’s Your Self-Image, Not Your Reflection

How Do You Perceive Yourself?

What do you see in the mirror? You see your reflection; or at least that’s what you think you are seeing. People see you much differently than you see yourself. The reason is, we see ourselves with our emotions, not what our eyes are actually seeing.  What is you self-image? Does your self-image have confidence? Or does it feel inferior?

Someone once told me that we all have a set weight in our mind, that are bodies adjust to. That’s why diets don’t work. We can lose weight on diets, but if your self-image is to be overweight; you can lose weight, but ultimately, you’ll gain the weight back after you quit the diet.  It’s because your self-image is one of being overweight. The actual number will vary, but nevertheless, you’ll find yourself in a state where you’ll always need to lose weight.

Your income, also has a set weight. You can set goals and reach them, but if your self-image is lacking or not having enough money, you’ll forever be dissatisfied with your income.  Unfortunately, this is true. It kind of sucks, to be frank. If you can be truly honest with yourself, without judgment, look back on your thoughts and life. You’ll be able to see the pattern. Most of us blame our conditions or environment. Aren’t you a glad to find out you have power?  Don’t you want a better self-image?

How Can a Person Change Their Self -Image

Changing your self-image is hard, but not complicated.  The reason it can be a difficult task is, because people hate change.  It feels unfamiliar.  It’s not what they’re used to.  Have you ever wanted to do something or go somewhere which no one you knew  was interested.  Yet, you were determined to go. As the event date moved closer, there probably was some sort of anxiety.  You weren’t sure where to go, what to do, what kind of people would be there, etc.  This is normal, but many people will let that feeling deter them from trying anything new. Good things happen when you push yourself.

When you overcome obstacles and get used to the idea that not all things are going to feel great, it makes you stronger.  This practice, is the start of changing your self-image.  Fear  in your self-image is what will hold you back.  So, what are you afraid of?


Most people are afraid of something; acceptance, failing, rejection, looking stupid, etc. Believe it or not, most people aren’t thinking of you as much as you think.  You can’t be rejected in this world, or you wouldn’t exist.  Your being in this world has a purpose. Just because you don’t know something, doesn’t make you stupid, and most important understand, failing is a part of success.  Those negative thoughts are in your head giving you your self-image.

Because of your negative self-image, you’ll believe a comment someone says to you, only if you believe it to be true.  If you thought you were fat, and someone made a remark how you could lose some weight, you’d get triggered.  If you thought you were skinny and someone made the same remark, you’d probably laugh or not have another care about the subject.  Your mind plays tricks.  The good thing is, once you know it’s only in your head is, you can change your self-image.


People have talked about affirmations forever.  In fact, none of what I’m writing is new information.  Affirmations come in different ways.  One is self-talk and one is facing your fears.  You build self-confidence when you push yourself.  You may fail while trying, but you will find that failing at a task isn’t the end-all be-all.  You can try again at a later time and you might get better each time. Or you might succeed the first time.  Either way the, you are changing your self-image.  Facing your fears or pushing through anxiety, builds confidence.

A strong and confident self-image opens doors for you.  You may not always like what’s on the other side, but that isn’t bad either.  Part of knowing what you want in life, is discerning what you don’t want.  This is how successful people make it.

Successful people know how affirmations work.  They change their self-image in the literal sense.  They dress the part.  If you want to be a rockstar, then dress like one.  When you walk down the street, people should know what you do by your style.  If you want to be an big executive, don’t buy a cheap suit.  Those are the little things that one can do to change self-image.  Of course, that isn’t the only thing.

Reading positive material that aids you in changing your self-image, especially before you go to bed.  It will help your brain rewire itself.  Your brain is plastic, it constantly rebuilding synapses.  What can you do to feel better?   Which areas do you want to improve your self-image?  Try it and see the results.

“The ‘self-image’ is the key to human personality and human behavior. Change the self image and you change the personality and the behavior.” – Maxwell Maltz

Thoughts and Energy Are the Key Ingredients in Attraction

Thoughts, Energy, and Attraction

Thoughts have assisted me well, in manifesting and being resourceful. I mentioned this in my previous blog. What does this mean? It’s quite simple. It’s an energies game. Some of you may be rolling your eyes about now, and that’s okay. It tells me, you may not have a clear idea of how the Law of Attraction works. You might not be aware that your thoughts are energy. Science is catching up with the mystics. Look up quantum physics. Thoughts eventually turn into things.

Things don’t usually fall out of the sky and land on your doorstep, although sometimes, they do. Generally, no one sends you a book deal out of the blue, because you were thinking of writing a book. What you might get is an idea that can lead to making money through action of some sort; writing a story, starting a business, an invention, etc., which could lead to an opportunity that snowballs into something amazing.

“If I didn’t have Bad Luck, I’d have no Luck at All”

Law of Attraction is like energy that attracts like energy. Everything has a vibration, like a radio frequency, including thoughts. It’s about tuning into the frequency of the thing that you want. I’m sure you’ve heard someone in your life say, “If I didn’t have bad luck, I’d have no luck at all.” And bad things actually happen to them. It’s not because they’re bad people, but rather where their energy and thoughts are.

Then there are those which seem to be blessed by the heavens above. Everything comes to them easily. The “knowing that they are lucky,” is the energy put into the “luck” vibration, which attracts more luck.

I’ve learned from dirt bike riding where your focus should be. It shouldn’t be on the rock or tree that you don’t want to hit. Focus your attention on where you want to go. If you focus on the tree, 9 out 10 times, you will hit the tree. Don’t focus on the things that will ultimately hurt you. Focus on the destination and the prize.

What are you focusing your attention on?

What are you focusing your attention on? Things you attract aren’t always as blatant; like a person calling or texting a few minutes after they popped into your brain. Many people have had that experience.

 The beginning of last week, my client had come back from Africa talking about her trip, giving me information for my latest working manuscript.  I’ve been obsessed with Africa since last December.

My son is in a rock band. He’s in the process of finding a drummer. Lots of drummers have been over to audition.  Drummers are a constant topic in our household. My focus is on Africa and drums.

By the end of my workweek, a client of mine, which is an artist, mentioned news of getting his artwork into a place where African drumming is taught. He had this beautiful painting of an African woman playing on a Congo Drum. Did you get it? Do you recognize the obvious signs and connections, when they happen to you? I love the validation!

 Energy and Thought Patterns

Learning about energy has guided me to examine my thought patterns and how they affected my life events. This led me to writing my memoir. I wanted share how this worked in my life through example. Manifesting Me, gives samples of outcomes, while living in a state of worry and fear. I new I needed to break the patterns of unhealthy thinking. Eventually I learned the benefits of living in a state of happiness and love. The outcome speaks for itself.

With an enthusiastic and confident vibe, anything is possible. Somethings have a longer gestational period. Patience is truly a virtue. I own a salon, I read Angel cards, and I am author. I’m in control of my schedule and make time for recreation and relationships. None of this happened overnight and without completing the steps to make them happen; salons don’t build themselves, books don’t write themselve. There is another law; Action.

Where are your thoughts and energy ? It takes about 28 days to create a habit. Not everyone is happy-go-lucky naturally. Even the most positive people have off days sometimes. Some people have experienced great loss. By no means am I negating anyone’s tragedies or suggesting you have control over every event in your life. I am merely suggesting to focus to the best of your ability on something that brings you joy. Try it out for a month. Live life on purpose with calculated thoughts and see what happens. You might surprise yourself!

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